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Last Friday, I had a casual ladies' chat with my colleagues just before knocking off work. Our topic revolves around relationships,marriage and giving birth.
This colleague of mine had just completed her PHD in Aust, and is back to serve her 3 years study bond in singapore as she is a malaysian. Her boyfriend is a caucasian and is in aust now. They have just started their relationship 2 months ago. We can sense her insecurity since it is difficult to maintain a long distance relationship. She is quite depressed since she is already 30 years old and long to settle down with a guy whom she can have a shoulder to lean on. She told us that she do not harbour high hopes of this relationship working out, probably due to a failed 5 years relationship before this one. We, outsiders cannot do anything but just told her 先看吧. She told us tat “不同人有不同命啊",and sometimes she tot of just getting anyone and get married. When she say tis, the rest of us just got stunned. haha.No, wat i believe is that if the correct man comes along, who is able to care for you and both of you have a lot to share with each other, be it same topics or interests..then marriage is on the way. Marrying a man who you have nothing to talk to each other abt, is a torture. I will rather stay single and happy.
So we move on to another colleague, who had just married this month. She is abt 28 years old. The following sentence which she said is reali true, which all of us agreed rite away.."It is important that the 2 persons are able to receive and interpret correctly each other signals, in order for a relationship to blossom". She told us tat although she is already married, she still dun feel a need for 男人。haha, but since she is lucky enuff to find the correct man and she reali likes children, she got married :) Finding the correct man and not the perfect man..ya
And so its on the nxt colleague, same age as me, had a boyfren for 2 years. She seldom talk abt her bf, but can c tat this relationship is stable. She is the 贤妻良母type, able to cook and handle housework very well. She say that its stil some time before marriage :)Her boyfriend is her fren's fren, which the rest agreed is good as she can see a different side of him besides in schools, workplace or when with her.
So its my turn to be discussed, haha. I told them that my future is bleak, the past plain as paper..haha..One asked me 如果对的人来了，will you accept?since it is the correct age now..yup..i nodded.
A rather good conversation with my colleagues, one which we can know more abt each other and encourage each other in the process or even 点醒 how fortunate some of us are.